March 2012
6 posts
ribcagerebel asked: actually, you don't even really need to forgive someone even if the person gets better. it's your feelings and the damage is done. you are entitled to ouch. but it sucks hating someone all the time isn't it? and blaming them for your bad parts even if it's true? i try to tell myself that i'm in control of my better parts. these bad people do not prevent me from being good....
ribcagerebel asked: that way i can focus on what i can and will do rather than dwelling on what was done to me. of course, perhaps that's not really forgiveness as much as it is self-care. but true enough, to pretend you can avoid the bad feelings for ever and they won't sneak up on you is naive. in which case i comfort myself that i hate the person's guts, but i absolve myself of responsibility over...
ribcagerebel asked: The way I go about forgiving people is reminding myself that even the shittiest people have felt pain and wanted love and thus deserve my respect. That allows me to still see them as human and also that their flaws are probably also as human as my flaws--born of ignorance, indulgence or social control. Humans can get better even if it won't be me that makes them better. And thus more...
February 2012
14 posts
sprinkledwords replied to your post: To add to this unbelievably shitty night, I have…
But stretch marks fade and everyone gets them and no one really minds. Promise.
I just used to have the nicest legs ever from working out all the time and I never do anymore and I’ve gained heaps of weight and this is just confirmation of all my lost motivation :( I’m ill and emotional fuuuuu
To add to this unbelievably shitty night, I have fresh stretch marks. Fucking kill me. I hate myself so hard right now.
pallasites replied to your post: I don’t know how to forgive. I just don’t really…
Forgiveness does not have to mean to accept their wrong doings, but to let them go and allow them to not hurt you in the way they have. Think of how you would like to be acknowledged after you have done something wrong. Do you deserve forgiveness?
I kind of get that. Sorry if I use your reply as like a...
Kay I’ve had a lot of Nyquil and I still feel really poopie so I’m going to bed now. Goodnight y’all, I’m bitter as all getout
In my mind, the only way I can really seem to explain forgiveness is
forgetting whatever bad was done in the first place and replacing the memory with good
rationally explaining why this bad was done, justifying it in a way and forgiving once you’ve figured out the reason (if you can)
um
that’s it I guess
Maybe I can’t forgive people because I’m not ready, but...
gossamergrins replied to your post: I don’t know how to forgive. I just don’t really…
I’m bad at it too, but think of it like this forgiveness is not for the person who’s done wrong. It’s not to justify them or to please them. it’s for you. It is the ability to let go of poisonous thoughts and instead embrace positive ones.
I’ve been told that before, and I agree with it. You should...
I don’t know how to forgive. I just don’t really understand how it’s done. I’ve come to that realization lately. If someone could help me out, that’d be much appreciated.
February 19 - Driving in cars with boys, now we...
I don’t know when you cross the line from wanting to better yourself and evolve into the best version of yourself and the person you want to be, to wanting to be another person altogether and hating who you are. Maybe I’m always straddling that line. I think that’s fairly normal, to always see someone else and immediately think, “I want to be like her.” When does that...
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February 15 - You were writhing on the floor like...
No one ever told me I could have orgasms.
As most of you know, sex ed is pretty useless. Half the country doesn’t even have sex ed, it has abstinence only sex ed, which is not education about sex, it is lying to children to scare and coerce them not to have sex. Those of us who do receive this almighty “education” know that the ever-famous Mean Girls gym-room sex ed scene...
February 8 - God hates fangs.
This time a year ago, I got a gym membership and started tracking my calories. I worked out for 90 minutes at the gym every other day, did strength training and yoga every night before I went to bed, and didn’t eat more than 1400 calories a day. By summer I felt hot in a bikini and had shrunk a dress size or two. It was awesome.
Hi. That shit doesn’t last.
I’m back at the...